Have you ever wondered how you can rely on yourself to find happiness and success? Then this article is for you!
Before I start, I just want to make something clear: by no means am I trying to say that you can’t be with loved ones to succeed. But sometimes you just progress faster when the only person you can count on is you.
What inspired me to write this post in the first place was a week when my boyfriend was away for work. It was the first time that I was on my own since we moved to a small town.
When we still lived in the city and he was away, the only thing I had to do by myself was watching Netflix at night. This time, however, I was working from home. And what’s even more important: I had a ton of stuff to do. Suddenly, I had to rely on myself to get everything done.
1. When you rely on yourself, you face your fears instead of running away
You should know that one of my biggest (and probably only) problem with moving to a small town was transportation. I am terrified of driving. I’m a horrible driver, too, and the thought of taking the car and going somewhere by myself would cause me major anxiety for years.
And I had successfully avoided it while we were living in a big city! With public transportation and all, we barely even needed a car.
Now back to the week I am talking about: I had a business meeting on the other side of town. And while I’m usually up for a long walk, one and a half hours one way doesn’t cut it even for me.
I knew I was going to have to drive there, and my anxiety about it was growing with every passing day. And then I suddenly had another meeting. And a third one. All far away from our side of town!
2. When you rely on yourself, you have to at least try
Let me get to the chase. If my boyfriend was there with me, I would have found an excuse not to get out of my comfort zone. I’d force him to drive me, or I’d tell him that he’s using the car anyway and take this as a reason not to go to the meetings.
It’s honestly the same as getting takeout with a friend and making them call to order. Or asking your parents to take care of your taxes because you don’t know how to do them.
Well, this time I was on my own. And there was a little voice in my head telling me that I had to at least try and take responsibility for my success.
The first time driving on my own was scary. But I got home safe, and so I took the car again. And again. And do you know what? I ended up loving it!
So here’s what I want to say with all of this: Sometimes you need to be on your own to unlock your full potential. When you’re with other people, it’s easy to rely on them. Or blame them. In any case, it’s far too easy to deny responsibility for reaching your own goals.
But when you’re suddenly on your own and there’s something that needs to be done, you have no choice but to rely on yourself. No matter how convinced you are that you can’t do it, you’re going to try anyway.
3. You already have what it takes
Oftentimes, we reject responsibility for our success because we believe that we’re not good enough. And that is simply not true.
Am I a bad driver? Sure. But only because I never practice. And the same goes for everything else in life. You simply can’t be good at something that you’ve never done before!
When you rely on yourself for success, you actually give yourself the chance to progress in life and learn new skills.
Are you still afraid that you won’t succeed? Don’t be.
When you want, you’re able to figure out anything.
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